We have all heard that it is not what we say but how we say it that really counts. Some believe it is the visual messages we subconsciously send that matter. The visual signals would include the way we hold our arms, facial expressions and posture. I agree all these have a bearing on how the message we are trying to convey will be received. Some experts believe our body language is far more important than the actual words we use.
Reports can vary on the percentages of importance between visual, vocal or actual word content but there seems to be a consensus that the actual content of the words is pretty low. (One report claims it is only worth 7 percent of the impact in conveying a message. I am not so sure I believe this low number is really accurate.)
I do believe we need to pay more attention to body language than the content of the words spoken. The vocal part of the message, according to the same experts, is considered about 38 percent; this refers to our tone and inflection in our speech patterns. They then go on to claim that the visual aspect of message sending can make up to as much as 55 percent of the message we are trying to convey to others. This refers to our body language, facial expressions and our overall demeanor. I suspect this is also body posture and how you carry yourself. How could the words that people actually say be so insignificant? I still think that what we actually say is important yet body language suggests a lot more than most of us think. To read the entire article click: Reading Body Language | 2015-09-01 | Walls & Ceilings Online